The secrets of cool flirts revealed, how to flirt like no one's watching!

Let’s say you go out to a party with some friends and draw attention of an attractive woman or man whom you are interested in. Sparks fly, as you exchange looks, talk animatedly, and even exchange numbers. After some pegs and laughs, you decide it is time to head home with the person.

In front of the crowd, it was okay. But now you two are alone. A wave of anxiety lurks in your mind as you are alone with her/him at home or at another place. Both of you know at the back of the mind, that you may end up making out. The point here is how you would communicate this part across to your object of attraction without sounding cheap, desperate or explicit. Read on to know how you can be suggestive without being lewd:

Here are some sexy pointers to know the person before making the move!

Find out about how ‘open’ he or she is: In the time that you spend with the person, you should gauge enough to know about how open or broad-minded he or she is to such things. If the object of your attraction is openly giving vibes, your responsive mind will be able to pick up the subtle signals. However, if you find that the object of your attraction is a bit withdrawn, mindful or reticent about certain things, make sure that you do not rush or cross the line.

You may have to add a lot of charisma in your conversation to get the desired effect. You can let her or him know that they are irresistible and attractive because of their ?(spot one quality and name it). Also seemingly shy people need to open up and any sexual talk or double meanings at this juncture will spoil it. Make sure you only talk about a personality trait that is sexy rather than comment on any physical attribute that sounds suggestive.

Humor: Humor has been one of the hottest qualities in many flirts and will be for the next 500 years. It is the best way to break the ice. Again there are different types of humor which you can use according to the temperament of the person. Try telling a joke about a guy who slipped on a banana peel. There are chances a girl break into peals of giggles. Another girl might just find this kind of humor pathetic and disgusting. It is always better to use general humor which does not offend any sentiments. And one more thing, cheesy pick up lines are just that..cheesy!

Be a tease: You need to loosen up and be playful. That does not mean, you go on tugging at his shirt or tugging at her hair clip. Tease her or him in a seductive manner so that he or she gets aroused and humored at the same time. Let the other person know that you are interested in him or her and are really enjoying their company.

Dance: Dancing is flirting in action. For those who can dance, this is a piece of cake. For those who cannot, it still works. Have feet, will dance! You do not really have to gyrate or break into a jive. If you can, then it is always a plus point. For those who cannot, you can still just hold the person close and move with her or him matching the steps. If you really do not know the moves, the person will guide you, if he or she is interested in you. Know that dancing can lead to a range of sizzling delights later. So make sure, you do not pass this one!

Eat to know better: There is something sensuous about a way person eats her or his food. It can subtly give you an idea about the person he or she is in bed. If he or she talks a lot while eating food, there is a chance that he or she likes to be talkative in bed too. If he or she is practiced and measured while eating, there are chances that they can be the same way in other areas of life, which include love making skills too. If they are clumsy and rushed while eating (assuming there is no urgent appointment), there is a chance that they will be the same in bed too. After all it all boils down to a person’s characteristics and traits. Hunger and sex are after all, basic instincts in a person, which compliment each other.

Relaxed touches: Do not ever ogle at a person’s body (especially a lady’s) like a sex maniac. You will ruin it. Do not grope or fondle a person in the hope of turning him or her on. It does not work and you end up getting a slap or having the person leaving you stranded. If you want to touch her, keep it casual. Do not make it seem as if it is a big deal. You need to keep it sexy enough but without any showing any element of explicitness. For example, a soft caress on the cheek(of the face that is), gentle holding of hands, caressing the palm or gentle tugging of the ear as you talk can be amusing and flirtatious without looking lewd. As for the grand course, you will know it as she or he picks up on your cues and gets into the groove with you.

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Your co-worker has a crush on you!

Do you think your co-worker has a crush on you? Here are the tell-a-tale signs

1. If the ten minutes meeting often extend to 45 minutes.
2. The colleague co-incidentally shows up where you usually hangout after work
3. He/she digs into your personal life and tries to find more about your pastimes, where you usually like to go during the holidays etc. All subtle signs to find out if you are dating someone.
4. The person is usually around on your coffee/cigarette breaks
5. The person works overtime, if you are doing the same and tries to leave at the same time as you.
6. The person calls you after office hours with a work-related excuse and continues to chat about everything under the sun and under the moon.
7. The person often takes a long detour to give you a home ride after work.

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Mind of a Girl and Mind of a Boy

If your boyfriend likes to shop and enjoys a good gossip, scientists have found a reason behind it. Not all men are psychologically inclined to map reading and playing chess. Not all women are sensitive and enjoy a good round of chat. According to tests women tend to score higher on the empathy test and men come tops, when it comes to measure their analytical skills and system measurements. But a certain percentage of men and women, albeit lower, scored significantly higher on the test in which the opposite sex fared better. It is a given that the sex of the brain is actually determined when the baby is one year old.

Here are a first set of sentences for you to read through:

1. I prefer to read non fiction than fiction.
2. I love reading articles or information about new technologies and inventions
3. I am fascinated by how machines work.
4. When I cook, I think about how different ingredients combine to make a delicious recipe.
5. When I learn a language, I am mystified by its grammatical content and rules.
6. I love the do it yourself philosophy and kits.
7. I love the discovery channel and scientific documentaries.
8. Bank statements and credit cards, those are my babies.
9. Legal documents are to be scanned and read carefully.
10. If there is an electrical problem, depend on me to rectify a circuit problem without a blink.

Now look at the second set of sentences:

1. I can easily get a sense of the fact that the third party is interested in knowing what is happening.
2. I should never be late for a meeting.
3. You have to think about how the other person feels, before you criticize him or her.
4. I know when the person says one thing and means the other.
5. If someone gets offended by my comment, I really feel guilty.
6. I hate to see people cry and in despair.
7. I would rather listen to people than brag about my own achievements.
8. I love films which have some emotional content, romance and humor in them.
9. Suppose I don’t like something in a person, I would rather not point it out to him or her because he or she might be offended.
10. I wish people cared and looked beyond the physical characteristics of a person.

Now looking at the above two set of sentences, let us grade them according to our preferences. If you strongly agree with the any statement, give yourself an A. If you slightly agree with a statement give yourself B. Give a C for each statement to which you respond A, one for every time you say B but no points for C or D.

Add up your total score for the SQ(systemizing quotient), which comprise the first set of sentences and all EQ(empathizing quotient) which comprise the second set of sentences, to give you totals out of a maximum of 20 which represent your systemizing quotient(predominantly man’s brain) or empathizing quotient(predominantly female brain)

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